boy crying

I saw this on a friend’s Facebook page today:

When our kids say hurtful things, they’re hurting.
When our kids lash out, they’re hurting.
When our kids resist and rehash, they’re hurting.
When our kids get rigid, they’re hurting.
When our kids are chaotic, they’re hurting.
When our kids ignore, pretend, defend and act out, they’re hurting.

What if we started with the hurting instead of bypassing the hurt in favor of behavior and how to quash it?
How would we see our kids’ intention and motivation differently?
How would we treat them differently?
How would they respond differently?
What would we have to change in our own hearts in order to embark on this process?
When the hurt is accessed, the heart heals, the behavior is understood as the symptom, not the cause.

Just something to think about. Thoughts?

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